i think it's funny how many people insist on offering their little tidbits here and there, especially when i'm expecting...
the other day as we were walking out of a restaurant, a father of two stopped me to inform me of something that he was obviously dying to let me know: "wait 'til the second one comes, it'll be twice as hard!" really, you mean it? twice as hard? no. i thought having two would mean it would twice as easy. boy am i in for it. thank you so very much for the heads up.
or i love it when i'm somewhere without ava, and people ask me if it's my first, ready to pounce on me with statements like, "get ready to not get any sleep" and "enjoy your freedom now, 'cause that baby's going to take it from you", until they hear that i already have one and disappointment sweeps across their face now that they won't be able to "help me", with all of their good advice.
or when someone asks when i'm due and tells me how "tiny" i am. the way some people say it can be so condescending. as if they know exactly how i'm feeling and how "easy" my pregnancy must be because of how "little" i am. believe me, my back hurts always, i feel like a bowling ball is trying to break through my pelvic muscles, my hips feel broken, i have problems breathing after simple activities and this baby is simultaneously kicking my ribs and my pubic bone.
i also enjoy hearing, terrible horror stories of when your granddaughter went into labor and everything went wrong and she and the baby almost died. thank you for telling me that terrible awful story, i already don't sleep well, but now... now, i can really sleep at night.
i mean, really people. my pregnancy wasn't an accident. it was actually planned. believe it or not, i wanted to have a baby. even after having one, i still wanted another one. even after a difficult first pregnancy and delivery, i still wanted another one. no need to convince me otherwise.
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HA thats funny.
I'm sure I am guilty of giving unwanted pregnancy advice, but I don't think I have approached strangers ever...
and I agree, people telling me horror stories about delivery when it was my first baby was awful. It's like, I am on a count down... and can't do anything about it now... the baby is going to come out... but thanks for the encouragement.
just give them the not so subtle thin smile and nod while walking away. technically not rude, but it gets the point across.
Cute picture! People are CRAZY and STUPID!
It must be your pregnancy kicking in, you always say how I am sensitive i am to comments people tell me. now you know how I feel when people come up to me and tell me things i allready know.
I think people say you look tiny, because you honestly look great! Can't tell you're due so soon. Not that that relieves any of the pain or anxiety.
And yes, it is stupid people and their oh so fun comments that made me terrified to tell anyone I was pregnant this time. Since our pregnancy was unplanned and our baby is only 9 months old, I almost feel like I deserve the comments, but honestly I never would've waited until I was 19 weeks along to tell anyone if I thought they might not all say something to send me into tears.
amen! I think that pregnant bellies, babies and children are magnents for random un-wanted comments, and annoying unnecessary touches from strangers.... it's too weird!
The other day we were getting onto a plane and I was carrying Mckenna down the aisle. I kid you not, every grown adult was making silly faces at her and trying to touch her as we walked by. I know she's cute and friendly but seriously, no thanks people!
you are really tiny. i don't think people telling you that negates all the other crappy symptoms you're feeling. you just don't look horrendously fat like the rest of us at 9 months....and that's something that will piss us fat girls off.
ok, the whole horror stories about the deilvery drives me bonkers!!!! I would get it all the time with my first and as if I wasn't scared enough! Who thinks that is fun to tell those to stories to anyone who doesn't ask for it whether it is your first or you 10th?
be sure you read BABYWISE and ATTACHMENT PARENTING. don't give your baby a bottle or he won't nurse. Be sure you introduce a bottle right away or they may never take one. your using cloth diapers right? the enviroment you know. just let your baby sleep with you, its a easier adjustment from them. never let your baby sleep w/ you they have to fall asleep on their own- i'm pretty sure i've done all of the above things. i've put some moneyfor therapy just in case i really messed them up.
oh the picture school pic is priceless. if i can get my scanner to work i'll post one for you.
Hi Diana- this is Fawn. I don't know if you remember me or not, but I graduated from MV same year. And I had a few classes with bryce. Anyway, just found your blog on my cousin's. This was a very entertaining post, and it made me laugh! don't you just get so annoyed? I find it most annoying when the person giving you advice is younger than you, and think they know it all! or someone who has never had children- like men! what do they know? anyway, just thought I'd say hello, and comment on your post. =0)
Its so true! People really do need to back off when a girl is pregnant. But since they won't--Trust me Diana, you'd rather get, "Oh you look so tiny!" than what I had to put up with. I got, "You look like you're due ANY day now," or, "Geez, you're big, you look like you are about to pop!" Because although you feel crappy, at least you know people think you look cute and aren't whispering about your giant size as you walk by!
I absolutely love your sarcasm! Yes, people can be so rediculous! I got a good laogh at your post. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! :)
I love this post. And I love that you're are probably the most beautiful pregnant person I know.
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